Past, Present and Future (Part 1)

I believe that everybody has those significant moments when they think about their life. Sometimes we reminisce on our past. Other times we make plans for the future. And for so many times we talk about what’s going on at the present. It’s just the way it is.

I think the best way to live your life is by learning from your past, doing the best you can do in the present time towards your ideal future. However simple it may seem, lately I have been thinking a lot about the past…reminiscing those special moments…being so grateful to God but ended up longing for experiencing those moments again. I thought about how much accomplishment I have made so far, those big mistakes I have done and how I have learned and grown to where I am now.

I can’t say that I am proud about myself when thinking about my failures – or perhaps if I put it in a positive word – my challenges in the past. The one biggest challenge I would like to share here is on my love life.

When I was younger – up to before my college year – I used to think that I am a very good and idealistic person. I have never done anything bad or wrong. I was always doing the right things, being a good girl and making my parents proud. It seems like my life will always be this good and perfect, that I would live a balance and harmonious life forever. But that is not how real life goes. And later I have come to learn more about life and other people through my experiences in love.

Being an idealistic person, I also pictured an idealistic love life. What kind of man that I would fall for, and how our love would be – all these had been fantasized and planned in my head for as long as I can remember. I have rejected more than a dozen boys because I thought none of them met all of my criteria. I thought they are too childish, not smart enough and basically just so far away from perfect for me.

(to be continued in part 2…)

Positive Thinking

Is it always positive to think positively? I've learned that it may not always so.

As a child, I used to think that I’m quite optimistic and naïve. I tended to think that other people would have similar – if not the same – way of thinking; and that everybody’s living in their own perfect world. Thus I would always think positively and see the good sides in them.

And that’s exactly how I got into trouble.

People would see me as a nice and kind person. Sometimes even too kind and others would take advantage of me. As I got older I learned it the hard way that not all people are kind. In fact there are many bad people out there.

Having those positive and optimist thoughts, I had to face disappointments from families, friends and special someone. It turned out to me that they are not all as perfect or true to me. I also learned that not all people likes you and that’s fine. You don’t need to like them all, too. It’s really okay to make mistake(s) as long as you learn some positive outcome from it.

So I guess what I’m trying to say is that being positive is important but more important is to be cautious and considerate in everything you do. This can only be done if you keep opening up your heart and mind, and never stop learning to broaden your horizons and knowledge and be wiser in making judgments.

Ten (little) Ways on How to be Happy

1.     Put a smile on your face

2.     Greet people

3.     Look at the blue sky

4.     Sing your favorite songs

5.     Have some ice cream

6.     Talk to a baby

7.     Watch a funny movie and laugh out loud

8.     Write down your accomplishments

9.     Think of how much you are blessed with good things

10.  Be with the one you love

Greatest Advice from My Parents

All of my life, I got lots and lots of advices from both of my parents. Some are just common sentences to me…few little advices and some more important advices such as on how to be me or how to live my life or be in the long-lasting relationships or even how to raise my children. But the two most remembered advices that gave major impact on me are these :

1.     It’s never easy to be a good person.

My parents would say it’s easier to be (or to be judged) a bad person. People often make mistakes and yes, it’s very human. But when you fail to keep your values, your virtues and start to make bad judgment, and even when it was only your one mistake, it would be hard to be the ideal you again and to gain trusts from other people. So the most important is to really learn from your mistake(s) and be better and wiser person.

2.     Do not rely too much on a person; rely yourself 100% on God the Almighty only.

People do need other people. But when you depend on someone too much; whether it’s your partner, your best friend, or maybe your parents, then you have to be ready to be disappointed, simply because they are only human. Nobody’s perfect and anybody can let you down. But when you rely on God, you believe that God will always be there for you and everything that happens to you has meaning. Just try hard, pray hard and let God do the rest.

start my own blog

Finally...

Today I decided to make my own blog.

Sharing a piece of mind and myself to the world.

Berharap semua kata, rasa dan apa yang tersampaikan di sini

bisa menjadi kebaikan bagi yang membaca/melihatnya.

Because there's never enough time to give and to share kindness

to the world.

This is also for my daughter, Ara and the little one in my tummy...